Some people are asexual, in that they have no sexual interest in most people. That’s not only okay, it’s perfectly valid and should be accepted in society as reasonable.
Some people have what would be considered an average sex drive, in that they think about sex often, and with whom, but it doesn’t take much of their attention most of the time.
I am what would be called hypersexual. I think about sex thousands of times a day.
My sex drive is powerful and constant. I think about sex more than most people think about themselves, and that’s a hell of a lot. I am, on some sliding scale, attracted to hundreds of the people I meet every day.
I am pansexual.
Now, being pansexual does not mean I would automatically be hypersexual. Being pansexual does not make you a sexual glutton, it does not mean you have no standards, and it certainly doesn’t mean we’ll have sex with your friend because surely we’d never say no (this also applies to my bisexual comrades, who also get this thrown at them all of the time) because we must want to have sex with everyone at the drop of a hat.
That being said, I am hypersexual. The origin of that hypersexuality can be many causes. It may simply be genetic, it may be a hormonal imbalance, it may be due to childhood trauma, or a combination of all of these things, but I’m explaining that I’m hypersexual for a reason:
Because as a hypersexual, as someone who thinks about sex thousands of times a day, as someone who has a very powerful sex drive and who feels the stress and pressure of that every day of my life, there is something I don’t do:
I do not touch someone, for any reason, without their express consent.
I have never touched another human being without their consent. I have never pushed myself on anyone and coerced “consent” out of them (I put that in quotations because forced consent is not consent, it is coercion, and it is wrong).
So when you see anyone explain that they have needs, and that they couldn’t control themselves, that they had to have sex with you or touch you in a sexual way: I want you to know that person is an abuser. They are attempting to exploit you, to gain your pity and consent in whatever way they can to get what they want.
You never have to say yes. Never.
If you’re not giving your 100% wholly enthusiastic consent, then that is no. I understand that, and the people trying to convince you otherwise understand that. They are predators. They are not to be trusted, and they are bad people.
No means no, and being horny on main is never a valid excuse for them to force a no into a “yes.”
.Red
P.S. “Blue balls” aren’t real. They’re lying to you.
